The balance of a successful career with a successful family living is an effort in it self.
Everyone is aiming for it, each one of us wants that, but so many will tell you--- you can't have both.
I say.., NO! I WANT TO HAVE BOTH!
Maybe it is so greedy and so wrong of me to want both. Maybe it is so ambitious of me to even demand having both successfully. Who am I to deserve such a life?
It is always easy to say " my career is for my family, I work and do business for them". But perhaps before such a clichés, we need to understand time is one second passing away every moment.
In the natural sense of it, time can't be duplicated, it is always diminishing and it is relevant to exhaustion. Time is physical. Time is like a "space", it can only be occupied once. Therefore, time is just one passing second for our family. A diminishing moment relevant to physical limitation for our career.
If I only have one time as space in my life, how can I have simultaneous time for my family and career?
So perhaps it may not be that easy after all.
To want both career and family successfully is ambitious nowadays. Because of the number of people alive, because technology is becoming a necessity and competitiveness is second human nature complicity in living is sometimes unbearable.
-- I will not blame anyone who is prompted to give up one after the other, many opt for a simple approach. Maybe at least with that, you will have one successful aspect of your life, rather than struggles and end up with very less. Yes., just focus on either family or career, maybe you have at least one successful. I say somewhat lazy but it works for a lot of us.
Sometimes to choose between is forced on someone by chance. Sometimes to choose is to hope eventually you will still have both family and career successfully somewhere or sometime soon. The sacrifice will be asked for a lot of us in the hope to win both family and career.., eventually.
Everyone is aiming for it, each one of us wants that, but so many will tell you--- you can't have both.
I say.., NO! I WANT TO HAVE BOTH!
Maybe it is so greedy and so wrong of me to want both. Maybe it is so ambitious of me to even demand having both successfully. Who am I to deserve such a life?
It is always easy to say " my career is for my family, I work and do business for them". But perhaps before such a clichés, we need to understand time is one second passing away every moment.
In the natural sense of it, time can't be duplicated, it is always diminishing and it is relevant to exhaustion. Time is physical. Time is like a "space", it can only be occupied once. Therefore, time is just one passing second for our family. A diminishing moment relevant to physical limitation for our career.
If I only have one time as space in my life, how can I have simultaneous time for my family and career?
So perhaps it may not be that easy after all.
To want both career and family successfully is ambitious nowadays. Because of the number of people alive, because technology is becoming a necessity and competitiveness is second human nature complicity in living is sometimes unbearable.
-- I will not blame anyone who is prompted to give up one after the other, many opt for a simple approach. Maybe at least with that, you will have one successful aspect of your life, rather than struggles and end up with very less. Yes., just focus on either family or career, maybe you have at least one successful. I say somewhat lazy but it works for a lot of us.
Sometimes to choose between is forced on someone by chance. Sometimes to choose is to hope eventually you will still have both family and career successfully somewhere or sometime soon. The sacrifice will be asked for a lot of us in the hope to win both family and career.., eventually.
--- You may be prompted to choose from family vs career, but I know in our hearts it could be another story. Regardless of space, I believe there is no such thing as "time" when it comes to loving, caring, treasuring,
-- Our hearts, our souls may not be bounded by time, in spirit, we have a different reality. This part is not a matter of wanting or demanding, our hearts are gifts from heaven, capable of nurturing. The capability to value others is an unquantifiable blessing we should learn to appreciate.
-- But time and successes are requirements we need to measure in pursuance of a good life.
To a certain degree, it is perceived as a blessing based on stability, cash flow, reputation, health, and numbers. And what., is it so wrong with that?!
-- Although it will never be permanent, as far as success our situation will always be day by day. These days can turn and be redefined depending on how we decide on things, and/or depending on how God favors us.
-- Do you know, losing and winning is always in collision? It is an entanglement of situation, one after the other, and is always recurring. Having and having none for many of us is confusing.
-- Losing or winning, is never absolute, as fashion always says ..., "one day you're in, the next day you are out". What is definite is the way we respond in being in or out. It is a matter of heart and relationship to see things through.
--- Anyway., most of the time, I believe life is a succession between losing and winning.
--- Behold, it is also true life can be "losing" again and again, until you end up with none. So be careful, not all will get what they want.
-- So what is "losing" anyway? Maybe we can define it as something not meeting our objectives, not getting what we want. Maybe it is a sequence of unfavorable circumstances that debilitate us! To many, it is a series of failure after trying and trying, YES! THAT IS LOSING.
Now tell me, who does not go through that? Who has immunity to FAILURE?! They say " ITS GOD". But who is "god" among us?
Who among us never went through the pain of not having this, not having that, losing someone, not having money, owning someone, not able to pay on time, not able to pay at all, being confused, can't balance family and career, conflicts, other mishaps in life, etc.., WHO IS IMMUNE TO ALL OF THESE?!
Therefore, maybe losing is normal, if everybody goes through it, maybe it is not "losing" after all. Maybe it is a series of attempts to win something far greater than just losing!!!
-- Maybe losing are small understanding how to win? Maybe losing are winnings here and there in preparation for bigger things, it is possible depending on your disposition.
You may win your family and lose your career, or you may win your career and lose your family. There are those who will struggle to have both, like me. Daily I strive for the optimal win in life, and I define that by having a career that makes money, and having my husband and children around me healthy, loving and capable. Some will not even consider that as an ambitious, of course it is what it should be! But because of our many challenges we have day to day, to keep a successful career and healthy family life is a struggle. In my case, it is my optimal win, and why not?! I believe that is what GOD wants us to have in our lives anyway.
I also believe, there are those isolated few who will give up both career and family and probably end up as what we call " The Real Losers" for not having anything at all.
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In my case, I will do everything possible to balance career and family successfully all throughout my life. It is a promise to myself. Every day I will ask God to help me have a successful family and career. I will hold on to it, I will figure it out. I will keep on working for it, I will never stop praying, I will never be tried in forgiving and asking for forgiveness. I will keep on doing what is necessary. I will make myself healthier, stronger and continue to ask for the wisdom needed for the balance I want, this is until I consume my last breath -- I want both family and career!
I KNOW IT IS NOT GOING TO BE EASY., there are so many factors that can make it seem impossible--- pride, unfairness, wrong expectation, overshooting, over-confidence, too hopeful, too helpful, disappointments, deaths, accidents, bankruptcy, other unforeseen events, miscommunication, misunderstanding, greed, lying, envy, lust, differences of belief and up-bringing., after all what I want is all about the people that is around me, yet I am still willing.
I am hoping for GOD's grace will favor me, bless me so I can have both family and career for the optimal win I want for my life. I know it will take a lot of humility, the right wisdom, the best decision, the right people, the opportunities of time, space and health, as a gift for me to achieve the balance of having a successful career and strong family. I will not just wait on God for it, I will work hard, pray harder to win God's favor and be forever deserving.
This is my personal thoughts as Eireen Diokno Bernardo and as Madam Sangre. I read it again and again so I will not forget all the promises I made to myself.
-- Our hearts, our souls may not be bounded by time, in spirit, we have a different reality. This part is not a matter of wanting or demanding, our hearts are gifts from heaven, capable of nurturing. The capability to value others is an unquantifiable blessing we should learn to appreciate.
-- But time and successes are requirements we need to measure in pursuance of a good life.
To a certain degree, it is perceived as a blessing based on stability, cash flow, reputation, health, and numbers. And what., is it so wrong with that?!
-- Although it will never be permanent, as far as success our situation will always be day by day. These days can turn and be redefined depending on how we decide on things, and/or depending on how God favors us.
-- Do you know, losing and winning is always in collision? It is an entanglement of situation, one after the other, and is always recurring. Having and having none for many of us is confusing.
-- Losing or winning, is never absolute, as fashion always says ..., "one day you're in, the next day you are out". What is definite is the way we respond in being in or out. It is a matter of heart and relationship to see things through.
--- Anyway., most of the time, I believe life is a succession between losing and winning.
--- Behold, it is also true life can be "losing" again and again, until you end up with none. So be careful, not all will get what they want.
-- So what is "losing" anyway? Maybe we can define it as something not meeting our objectives, not getting what we want. Maybe it is a sequence of unfavorable circumstances that debilitate us! To many, it is a series of failure after trying and trying, YES! THAT IS LOSING.
Now tell me, who does not go through that? Who has immunity to FAILURE?! They say " ITS GOD". But who is "god" among us?
Who among us never went through the pain of not having this, not having that, losing someone, not having money, owning someone, not able to pay on time, not able to pay at all, being confused, can't balance family and career, conflicts, other mishaps in life, etc.., WHO IS IMMUNE TO ALL OF THESE?!
Therefore, maybe losing is normal, if everybody goes through it, maybe it is not "losing" after all. Maybe it is a series of attempts to win something far greater than just losing!!!
-- Maybe losing are small understanding how to win? Maybe losing are winnings here and there in preparation for bigger things, it is possible depending on your disposition.
You may win your family and lose your career, or you may win your career and lose your family. There are those who will struggle to have both, like me. Daily I strive for the optimal win in life, and I define that by having a career that makes money, and having my husband and children around me healthy, loving and capable. Some will not even consider that as an ambitious, of course it is what it should be! But because of our many challenges we have day to day, to keep a successful career and healthy family life is a struggle. In my case, it is my optimal win, and why not?! I believe that is what GOD wants us to have in our lives anyway.
I also believe, there are those isolated few who will give up both career and family and probably end up as what we call " The Real Losers" for not having anything at all.
------
In my case, I will do everything possible to balance career and family successfully all throughout my life. It is a promise to myself. Every day I will ask God to help me have a successful family and career. I will hold on to it, I will figure it out. I will keep on working for it, I will never stop praying, I will never be tried in forgiving and asking for forgiveness. I will keep on doing what is necessary. I will make myself healthier, stronger and continue to ask for the wisdom needed for the balance I want, this is until I consume my last breath -- I want both family and career!
I KNOW IT IS NOT GOING TO BE EASY., there are so many factors that can make it seem impossible--- pride, unfairness, wrong expectation, overshooting, over-confidence, too hopeful, too helpful, disappointments, deaths, accidents, bankruptcy, other unforeseen events, miscommunication, misunderstanding, greed, lying, envy, lust, differences of belief and up-bringing., after all what I want is all about the people that is around me, yet I am still willing.
I am hoping for GOD's grace will favor me, bless me so I can have both family and career for the optimal win I want for my life. I know it will take a lot of humility, the right wisdom, the best decision, the right people, the opportunities of time, space and health, as a gift for me to achieve the balance of having a successful career and strong family. I will not just wait on God for it, I will work hard, pray harder to win God's favor and be forever deserving.
This is my personal thoughts as Eireen Diokno Bernardo and as Madam Sangre. I read it again and again so I will not forget all the promises I made to myself.
